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“Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson ~
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The road to achieving any goals you might set yourself may be a long and difficult one. Sometimes we raise the bar just a little too high for ourselves, stretching ourselves and our capacities to the limit in an attempt to gain the prize we seek. Quite often we succeed though, occasionally through sheer force of will or by putting in just that little bit of extra effort which you never thought you had in you before you started. It often happens to me that, at the end of a long and difficult race, that I'm still able to put in a sprint during the last several hundred metres, almost as if I'm tapping into a hidden and unknown reserve which my mind uncovers at just the right moment. When I'm totally motivated, it just happens.

We often don't trust ourselves enough to bring in the results we need or want. We know what we want to achieve, but doubts and reservations about the practicality or feasability of what we want to do get in our way. Partly to do with fear, fear of failing, fear of going out on a limb, fear of making an ass of oneself, partly also because we're worried how our environment reacts to the wild plans we're hatching. All too often there will be subtle reminders from others that we're not up to the challenge, gentle hints that we should just leave things alone and get on with what you've always been doing, or well articulated comments letting you know that what you're trying to do just isn't possible.

The little voices which feed our self-doubt drag us down, every day in every way. And whilst we can't do much about the niggly commenters (both inside or outside of our heads), we do have the ability to control how we react to them. Mostly, it's useful to remember why you've decided on this goal for yourself. What will it deliver for you, what do you think will be the ultimate benefit? Why is it so important for you, even though what you have planned for yourself might create personal difficulty or hardship? Write these down, keep them in mind because every time you falter, every time the nagging doubts appear you'll be able to remind yourself of where you're going and what you need to do.

In the past people have often passed comments on to us, convincing us of our inability to perform certain tasks or reinforce our perceptions of our lacking certain skills. And more often than not, we've taken these opinions to heart and set them in stone in our lives, resigning ourselves to the impossibility that we might be able to change at some time in the future.
WAKE UP! Live is all about change, so why can't you change also? What inhibits you and tries to stop you discovering your own potential? In the same way I can run a decent sprint after a 16km run, you also can access the hidden energies and possibilities in your own mind, and discover completely new aspects of yourself you'd never dreamed of in the past.

In my younger years I had enormous difficulty expressing myself in public. I found myself stammering and blocking up every time I faced even a small audience, and in the course of time and after numerous efforts, I totally gave up even trying. That was me, I couldn't do it and I resigned myself to the fact that speaking in public just wasn't the right thing for me. End of story. Until I discovered that I too had an important tale to tell, that I was able to use my own experience to help others, that I could share the methods and techniques I'd learned so that the people I connect with could benefit from my past difficulties. With some guidance, and a lot of encouragement, I worked at neutralising my fears, learned new skills and in time was able to run workshops and address symposia. I really needed to be convinced that what I wanted to do was possible, that the only person holding me back in the end was myself.

And so it goes. Every day, in every way, I'll be seeking out new challenges. Big ones, small ones, really tiny ones occasionally, but always throwing down the gauntlet for myself and daring myself to take on a task I had previously convinced myself I couldn't do. By all means, listen to other people and take their input on board, but don't let the flames of your smouldering self-doubt be fanned by what other people have to say. Evaluate what they share with you on it's own merits, find what's useful for you but don't let their comments or reactions be the driving force in your own life. If only because you need to respect your own autonomy and sense of self determination.

You are in charge now, you make the decisions, you know what's best for you. And even if you can't see where you're going, trust yourself for a good outcome. Even of you make incredible blunders occasionally, even if you things don't work out the way you'd wished at moments, you'll know that you've tried your best and can be motivated to continue moving forward in a different and improved way.

Try it, you'll like it, and trust me. Good luck and keep well...